Most men believe they will feel an immediate and intense shaft of white hot rage when they fin out their wife is cheating on them. Some men do indeed feel this. However, there are plenty of men who have a difficult time feeling anything other than profound sorry over learning their wives are cheating on them.
There are reasons why it happened. It could be that some men are so overprotective of their relationships. They don't want to destroy what they promised, to love their wives through thick and thin. Another reason could be shame. They are afraid that their friends and neighbors will know that they will separate because of cheating. They want to keep everything in private and just leave it within the four corners of their room. But the most important reason why they couldn't hate their wives is because of Love.
Love is a powerful spell joined by trust and sealed by marriage. It's a special gift casted from heaven and must be enjoyed by two people. Without love, lust will take its place and conquer every individual who liked each other. Relationships formed through lust instead of love will not stay forever. It will suddenly disperse, leaving pains and troubles.
If you caught your wife having an affair, it doesn't mean you need to hate and judge her right away. It's okay to react wildly with the situation but try to evaluate everything and weigh accordingly. Maybe there are reasons why; maybe you're not giving her the proper attention she deserves.
Love doesn't keep any records of wrong. It's another testament of a true love. Even how strong a relationship is, there will always imperfections that could stain and destroy the promises made. We are all humans and we are all weak no matter how we claim that we're strong. We are prone to all worldly things that can provide temporary happiness. It's beyond our control and if this happens, we have no choice but to accept it and move on.
It's not that she was looking for an opportunity but that an opportunity presented itself when she was not on guard or at a moment when she as particularly vulnerable. Part of the reason you may not be as angry as you thought you would be is that you know, deep down inside, that she didn't do this with malicious intent. She wasn't actively trying to hurt you. That doesn't diminish the pain you feel by any means but it should help you understand the depth of your personal pain and your lack of anger.
Why can't I Hate You?
Why can't you seem to get angry? There are many possible reasons and not all of them are as obvious as you might believe.
1) You're ready to face your friends together with her after what happened.
2) You're not using her past to judge her.
3) You want to save the marriage that you kept for so long.
4) You accepted her for who she is.
5) You want to let her know the true meaning of love.
There are reasons why it happened. It could be that some men are so overprotective of their relationships. They don't want to destroy what they promised, to love their wives through thick and thin. Another reason could be shame. They are afraid that their friends and neighbors will know that they will separate because of cheating. They want to keep everything in private and just leave it within the four corners of their room. But the most important reason why they couldn't hate their wives is because of Love.
Love is a powerful spell joined by trust and sealed by marriage. It's a special gift casted from heaven and must be enjoyed by two people. Without love, lust will take its place and conquer every individual who liked each other. Relationships formed through lust instead of love will not stay forever. It will suddenly disperse, leaving pains and troubles.
If you caught your wife having an affair, it doesn't mean you need to hate and judge her right away. It's okay to react wildly with the situation but try to evaluate everything and weigh accordingly. Maybe there are reasons why; maybe you're not giving her the proper attention she deserves.
Love doesn't keep any records of wrong. It's another testament of a true love. Even how strong a relationship is, there will always imperfections that could stain and destroy the promises made. We are all humans and we are all weak no matter how we claim that we're strong. We are prone to all worldly things that can provide temporary happiness. It's beyond our control and if this happens, we have no choice but to accept it and move on.
It's not that she was looking for an opportunity but that an opportunity presented itself when she was not on guard or at a moment when she as particularly vulnerable. Part of the reason you may not be as angry as you thought you would be is that you know, deep down inside, that she didn't do this with malicious intent. She wasn't actively trying to hurt you. That doesn't diminish the pain you feel by any means but it should help you understand the depth of your personal pain and your lack of anger.
Why can't I Hate You?
Why can't you seem to get angry? There are many possible reasons and not all of them are as obvious as you might believe.
1) You're ready to face your friends together with her after what happened.
2) You're not using her past to judge her.
3) You want to save the marriage that you kept for so long.
4) You accepted her for who she is.
5) You want to let her know the true meaning of love.
About the Author:
These reasons are a great start. Ultimately it may be a matter of you loving her more than she hurt you. Sometimes it really is that simple. But, if she left thinking you couldn't forgive her or you made her leave in a moment of intense pain you can still work to get your wife back. Also published at Why Do I Still Love My Wife Despite Her Cheating?.
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