Families do actually matter to you and most especially to her. It isn't true she cheats not for the sake of her family. There are so many uncountable and complex reasons why women cheat but not so often; it's mainly this single reason. Women who cheat most of the time have close knits in the family.
The home is important to them. They don't want their families to go into a chaos with the knowledge of her cheating. To counter this, they do whatever they can to keep it secret. Why would they do that? The magic word here is, need. Their needs are not being met in the marriage while the other man they are with completes it.
Chances are your wife loves you and your family very much. The odds are good that she would never in a million years want to hurt you. So, what's the problem?
The biggest problem is she doesn't know the problem. She doesn't know she has a need that is not filled. Still, it is unconscious to her existence as a wife.
Should she cheat? Obviously, she shouldn't. She knows it's wrong. She knows it's a risk to the marriage and family she loves so much. So why is she compelled to do it?
That partly answers it. She knew about what will happen but do you think rationality is still present? This is called a compulsion to cheat what the other man is offering. Her need is being fulfilled by the other without the involvement of logical thought.
Hurt is another issue. She knows you are hurt about it but it's so irresistible to cheat. This is a sad reality.
Does her Need Make Cheating OK?
No it does not. It's not OK that she cheated but understanding why she cheated might help you decide what should happen next without being hindered by anger, jealousy, or even bruised pride. These things are a distraction to the issue at hand.
If you are really dedicated in making things work out together then you have to understand some of these things:
1) Understand why she is cheating. To know this, you have to sit down and talk to each other as comfortable as you can. Don't go aggressive so you can get deeper into the reasons what motivates her cheating.
2) Understand where you and your wife's emotional status. If both of you are on the rocks then better determine your devotion to keep up with what you have started together. If it's not 100 percent, don't dream big about yourselves.
3) Understanding why you are willed in forgiving and making her understand that it is now or never. Be careful not give the impression that this is a chance for her to get away but be certain that she nearly lost all and the second time will be far more unpleasant than that.
The home is important to them. They don't want their families to go into a chaos with the knowledge of her cheating. To counter this, they do whatever they can to keep it secret. Why would they do that? The magic word here is, need. Their needs are not being met in the marriage while the other man they are with completes it.
Chances are your wife loves you and your family very much. The odds are good that she would never in a million years want to hurt you. So, what's the problem?
The biggest problem is she doesn't know the problem. She doesn't know she has a need that is not filled. Still, it is unconscious to her existence as a wife.
Should she cheat? Obviously, she shouldn't. She knows it's wrong. She knows it's a risk to the marriage and family she loves so much. So why is she compelled to do it?
That partly answers it. She knew about what will happen but do you think rationality is still present? This is called a compulsion to cheat what the other man is offering. Her need is being fulfilled by the other without the involvement of logical thought.
Hurt is another issue. She knows you are hurt about it but it's so irresistible to cheat. This is a sad reality.
Does her Need Make Cheating OK?
No it does not. It's not OK that she cheated but understanding why she cheated might help you decide what should happen next without being hindered by anger, jealousy, or even bruised pride. These things are a distraction to the issue at hand.
If you are really dedicated in making things work out together then you have to understand some of these things:
1) Understand why she is cheating. To know this, you have to sit down and talk to each other as comfortable as you can. Don't go aggressive so you can get deeper into the reasons what motivates her cheating.
2) Understand where you and your wife's emotional status. If both of you are on the rocks then better determine your devotion to keep up with what you have started together. If it's not 100 percent, don't dream big about yourselves.
3) Understanding why you are willed in forgiving and making her understand that it is now or never. Be careful not give the impression that this is a chance for her to get away but be certain that she nearly lost all and the second time will be far more unpleasant than that.
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