Cheating has taught us, in one way or another, to be terrified with the idea of abandonment and to rail against the idea of sharing. Most people believe that cheating's ultimate end is divorce. I say this is just one of the many myths people attached to infidelity issue.
The truth is, cheating has been around since the fall of man, yet we have never understood it probably because we really never care to understand. Of course, cheating is such a very shameful and painful act. We are not ignoring its damaging results to the people involved, but the point of the matter is that you have to comprehend the situation first before you start tormenting your self with the idea of divorce.
Myth #1 - Cheating has to end in divorce.
Your cheating has caused a lot of damage to your wife - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And you punish yourself by being guilty despite the fact that she has forgiven you. Cheating doesn't end in divorce. Experts and professional marriage counselors has established the fact that as much as 98 percent of their clients were able to rekindle the lost romance in their marriages.
More likely you want to get your family back, or bring the trust of your wife back, but you can't also get away with the shame attached to your cheating. Trust does not happen overnight. Everybody wants to save their marriage, but there is still that guilt feeling that kills you every second of the day to the extent that the other part of you says you really deserve to be punished.
Believe You Deserve a Second Chance
Characteristically, a husband who was caught cheating tends to immediately make promises of not cheating again. However, a wife is smart enough not to believe a husband's promise knowing that 'cheating' per se is a kind of behavior that is difficult to control.
Conversely, you have to understand that promises are not enough to convince your wife. She needs to see you change in order for her to grant you the 'second chance' that you are asking. Your wife knows that there was a deep reason why you cheated on her, and whether or not her preconceived notions are true, she knows that there is something wrong with the relationship. Sometimes better off is really not a better choice because it is better to get to the bottom of the problem with your spouse than to choose divorce and repeat it with the new one.
Tell Her you want a Second Chance
The next step is to convince her to give you the second chance you want. It might seem like a shot in the dark but you might be surprised by her response if you ask, with your heart on your sleeve, her to forgive you and give you one more chance to make things right between the two of you.
Yes, she deserves to know what you ought to do now that both of you are in limbo. She needs to know your plans after she found out you cheated on her. She has to know that you are sorry for what you did. She must know that you still love her and is more than willing to start anew.
The truth is, cheating has been around since the fall of man, yet we have never understood it probably because we really never care to understand. Of course, cheating is such a very shameful and painful act. We are not ignoring its damaging results to the people involved, but the point of the matter is that you have to comprehend the situation first before you start tormenting your self with the idea of divorce.
Myth #1 - Cheating has to end in divorce.
Your cheating has caused a lot of damage to your wife - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And you punish yourself by being guilty despite the fact that she has forgiven you. Cheating doesn't end in divorce. Experts and professional marriage counselors has established the fact that as much as 98 percent of their clients were able to rekindle the lost romance in their marriages.
More likely you want to get your family back, or bring the trust of your wife back, but you can't also get away with the shame attached to your cheating. Trust does not happen overnight. Everybody wants to save their marriage, but there is still that guilt feeling that kills you every second of the day to the extent that the other part of you says you really deserve to be punished.
Believe You Deserve a Second Chance
Characteristically, a husband who was caught cheating tends to immediately make promises of not cheating again. However, a wife is smart enough not to believe a husband's promise knowing that 'cheating' per se is a kind of behavior that is difficult to control.
Conversely, you have to understand that promises are not enough to convince your wife. She needs to see you change in order for her to grant you the 'second chance' that you are asking. Your wife knows that there was a deep reason why you cheated on her, and whether or not her preconceived notions are true, she knows that there is something wrong with the relationship. Sometimes better off is really not a better choice because it is better to get to the bottom of the problem with your spouse than to choose divorce and repeat it with the new one.
Tell Her you want a Second Chance
The next step is to convince her to give you the second chance you want. It might seem like a shot in the dark but you might be surprised by her response if you ask, with your heart on your sleeve, her to forgive you and give you one more chance to make things right between the two of you.
Yes, she deserves to know what you ought to do now that both of you are in limbo. She needs to know your plans after she found out you cheated on her. She has to know that you are sorry for what you did. She must know that you still love her and is more than willing to start anew.
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