Wives often struggle with the idea whether to stay or leave after discovering the affair of their husbands. Their minds are often torn between leaving them and never come back and worrying that they might come to regret that decision of leaving and later question themselves if they should have tried to salvage the marriage.
Many women do walk away from their cheating husbands. They've been taught from early ages that this is the one super bad ultimate "no-no" in marriage. Unfortunately, when the time comes and it happens to you, it's hard to simply walk away.
However inviting and appealing, leaving and staying married both have their advantages and disadvantages. Since you are still under the spell of emotional one-sidedness, do you think it would be right to think things over for now?
1) There is no clear reason as to why he cheated on you. Therefore, you could never decide on something if you don't know that whole story. This is the maxim that rules decision making - never decide unless you know the entire report. Even if anger is crippling your emotions toward him, you know deep inside you that there is still that aching feeling of love. Try to see that as a motivation for reconciliation.
2) You still have unfinished plans together. It would really be disappointing to know that all the plans you have made together would just crumble down because of his infidelity affair. Of course, cheating is quite a blow to your marriage. You cannot spend the rest of your life crying over spilled milk thinking you could have saved your marriage when in fact you can.
3) Your children will suffer the consequence. You might be released from the pain of his cheating, but the greatest impact hits innocent lives who have to grow up in a complete family. An intact childhood creates a positive effect on their attitude towards themselves, to the people around them, and to their future families as well. Growing up in a broken family has a lot of negative consequences than you think there is.
4) Is it worth to stay married to a cheating husband? The answers are always divided between yes and no. Whether you will listen to the advice of your friends or not, the answer still lies in you. His cheating, just like the other trials you've encountered in your relationship, can be a way of polishing the stone in order for it to turn into a gem.
Many women do walk away from their cheating husbands. They've been taught from early ages that this is the one super bad ultimate "no-no" in marriage. Unfortunately, when the time comes and it happens to you, it's hard to simply walk away.
However inviting and appealing, leaving and staying married both have their advantages and disadvantages. Since you are still under the spell of emotional one-sidedness, do you think it would be right to think things over for now?
1) There is no clear reason as to why he cheated on you. Therefore, you could never decide on something if you don't know that whole story. This is the maxim that rules decision making - never decide unless you know the entire report. Even if anger is crippling your emotions toward him, you know deep inside you that there is still that aching feeling of love. Try to see that as a motivation for reconciliation.
2) You still have unfinished plans together. It would really be disappointing to know that all the plans you have made together would just crumble down because of his infidelity affair. Of course, cheating is quite a blow to your marriage. You cannot spend the rest of your life crying over spilled milk thinking you could have saved your marriage when in fact you can.
3) Your children will suffer the consequence. You might be released from the pain of his cheating, but the greatest impact hits innocent lives who have to grow up in a complete family. An intact childhood creates a positive effect on their attitude towards themselves, to the people around them, and to their future families as well. Growing up in a broken family has a lot of negative consequences than you think there is.
4) Is it worth to stay married to a cheating husband? The answers are always divided between yes and no. Whether you will listen to the advice of your friends or not, the answer still lies in you. His cheating, just like the other trials you've encountered in your relationship, can be a way of polishing the stone in order for it to turn into a gem.
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