Friday, August 13, 2010

Should You Seek Counseling To Save A Bad Marriage?

By Areelitaha Joahlanski

The stresses and strains of daily life can take their toll on a marriage. It's not easy to make the happiness of your spouse a priority whilst juggling work, household tasks, children, and budgets. Further stress can come from having to deal with troubled children, aging parents, job insecurity or ill heath. It's not always easy to tell whether your relationship is simply going through a bad patch or whether you should look for help to save a bad marriage. Here are some pointers.

If any of the following apply to you and your partner, you might need assistance building trust. Your partner seems unreasonably jealous or protective. When your spouse is away, you worry about what they've been up to. You sometimes suspect that your partner is not telling you the truth.

Consider seeking support to rebuild your relationship if these statements are true. You feel that your spouse is involved in a lifestyle that doesn't include you. You feel more comfortable at home when your spouse isn't there. Your spouse doesn't consider your needs when making decisions.

Have you and your spouse become more like housemates than husband and wife? Do you ever think that the only thing you have to talk about is your children or that they are the only thing keeping you together? Do you no longer find your partner sexually attractive? Maybe you could do with some advice on how to bring back the romance.

Do conversations about problems tend to degenerate into verbal fights? Does one of you always have to be right? Do your arguments include personal attacks or name calling? Do some of your discussions repeat ad nauseum? You might benefit from training in communication skills.

There's no need to continue living with the anxiety we feel when faced with relationship problems. What seems like a bad marriage often results from routine behaviors that we can learn to change with a little guidance and advice from a trained expert.

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