Saving your marriage after a break up requires a good amount of introspection on both parties. While each couple is different and will have different issues they are focusing on, the following are some of the most common areas where married couples could use some direction. Chances are that no one issue alone will cause a break up, but this overview strives to address some of the reasons why and how repair the damage they cause.
While you will not always see things in the way your spouse does, it is important to try to understand why they see things the way they do. This is because it makes compromise much easier. When you know what the other person is concerned about, you can better work towards a solution that makes both parties happy. That said, it is important to choose your battles during the times when you cannot manage to meet each other half way.
Keeping your sense of humor is crucial as well. Life keeps us busy enough to not realize how insignificant many things truly are. Learn to laugh at the mistakes your spouse makes and your own in a way that is not critical, but appreciative. You are living with a being you have no control over. When you understand their strengths and weaknesses, you know what to expect can learn to compromise accordingly.
Remember that you are first and foremost friends in a partnership. Neither party should control everything, nor have to do all the work in the relationship. The best way to avoid this is communication. Do not be afraid to speak up but do be introspective and try to understand your partners perspective at least as well as you understand your own.
Sex is a very important aspect of a romantic relationship and many couples do not have it often enough. Not only is it a way to share intimate moments, demonstrate affection and desire but it is also a way to keep a romance alive. A couples sexuality goes beyond the bedroom. Flirtation, humor, laughter--the things that drew you in the first place must be nurtured. Do not take each other for granted.
Most importantly however is that you keep the respect, trust and love blossoming. Support each other in all your endeavors and do not be afraid to confront problems head on. Patience, compromise and honesty will guide you both.
While you will not always see things in the way your spouse does, it is important to try to understand why they see things the way they do. This is because it makes compromise much easier. When you know what the other person is concerned about, you can better work towards a solution that makes both parties happy. That said, it is important to choose your battles during the times when you cannot manage to meet each other half way.
Keeping your sense of humor is crucial as well. Life keeps us busy enough to not realize how insignificant many things truly are. Learn to laugh at the mistakes your spouse makes and your own in a way that is not critical, but appreciative. You are living with a being you have no control over. When you understand their strengths and weaknesses, you know what to expect can learn to compromise accordingly.
Remember that you are first and foremost friends in a partnership. Neither party should control everything, nor have to do all the work in the relationship. The best way to avoid this is communication. Do not be afraid to speak up but do be introspective and try to understand your partners perspective at least as well as you understand your own.
Sex is a very important aspect of a romantic relationship and many couples do not have it often enough. Not only is it a way to share intimate moments, demonstrate affection and desire but it is also a way to keep a romance alive. A couples sexuality goes beyond the bedroom. Flirtation, humor, laughter--the things that drew you in the first place must be nurtured. Do not take each other for granted.
Most importantly however is that you keep the respect, trust and love blossoming. Support each other in all your endeavors and do not be afraid to confront problems head on. Patience, compromise and honesty will guide you both.
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