Saturday, September 25, 2010

Reasons That Make It Tough For People To Apologize

By Aurora Sykes

Apologizing can be a very challenging thing to do especially in the presence of emotions and reluctance. It can get really complicated especially if the situation has affected both parties significantly.

People commit themselves into sincere relationships due to the fact that we all need someone that we can depend on regardless of any situation. We all need that someone to have our feelings for them in mind, support us in whatever we do and gives us the loyalty we need out of that special someone.

However, there are certainly times when we fail to deliver some of these responsibilities and there is a need to apologize regardless if you've didn't intend for any of it to happen. Why not take a closer look at this whole apology situation, its significance and ways of actually doing it.

Hesitancy: There are times when you feel reluctant to even go ahead and apologize. You may think that it was all accidental and that you never meant for anything like that to happen.

Perhaps both of you feel wronged somehow and that you feel a reluctance to give out any apology without getting one from your partner first. Such situations are not uncommon.

One factor that makes us feel reluctant to give out an apology is the thought that you have to be humble yourself to do it. However, this is actually not true and apologizing to that special someone does not make you apologize for your worth as a person.

Thus you would need to reflect on the things that sparked the whole thing and determine your mistakes. Your apology should be built around your offense itself.

Be clear about what you did: Once you apologize to someone, you need to acknowledge what you did wrong and the fact that you know why it was a mistake on your part. This is typically everything that a person requires in order to forgive someone.

That person after all needs you to know for certain that they are hurt and that you know exactly what you did in order to be assured that you wouldn't do it again. There may also be a need to compromise especially if you are convinced that it wasn't totally your fault and that you never meant any of it.

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