Wednesday, September 1, 2010

How To Stop Infidelity From Ruining Your Marriage

By Josh Smith

You should know that infidelity is something that does not have to ruin your marriage. Recent studies have shown that around 45% of married women and 60% of married men are unfaithful at some point during their relationship. Infidelity can range from a one night drunken mistake to a.., planned and calculated affair. And is likely to have a long term effect on your relationship.

A lot of people have affairs since they desire to get out of the marriage and cannot communicate that fact. Some even have affairs as a cry for help, an indication that something is seriously wrong in the marriage. While others are unfaithful for the thrill and excitement. True, being unfaithful is not the most helpful way to let your partner know you are not happy but it could be the wake up call needed to save the marriage.

Sometimes the very fact that a partner is unfaithful allows a couple to take an honest look at saving their marriage and working through their problems together.

Infidelity really affects relationships greatly. It takes time to rebuild trust and decide whether you have a basis on which you can both make an effort to save the marriage. However, infidelity doesn't have to mean a relationship is done with. You can save your marriage.

Don't make hasty decisions. Blame isn't very useful, either. Express how you feel and move on. Decide what you need to save the marriage. Rebuilding your relationship will take a little time and understanding how to trust your mate again will definitely need a little faith, but is a must if you plan on saving your marriage.

Infidelity is a devastating experience. And yet, many couples who go through it will be able to recover. How do they overcome the horrible memories of an affair after reconciliation... Forgive and Forget is a lot easier said than done.But if forgiveness is difficult, forgetting is probably downright impossible for many spouses. They are expected to forget some of the most painful experiences of their lives... While there is no excuse for infidelity, you'll gradually need to get over it, if saving the marriage is on the agenda.

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