You and your husband had been divorced for a while and now he is asking for a second chance in your life. Does your ex cheating husband deserve a second chance from you?
The answer to this question is entirely up to you. Nobody can dictate you what to do. For a start, it is better that you answer these few questions first before considering to give that ex cheating husband of yours a new room in your life and be hurt again for the second time.
1. Do you still believe that your ex husband loves you? If not, then there is no point in moving on the next level. If you continue, insecurity will eat you up and you will be unable to give your relationship another shot. However, if you do believe that he loves you, then you should know that he will not commit the same mistake again and see you go through the pain of him cheating on you and be devastated if he cheats for the second time.
2) Do you still love your husband? For most women, the act of cheating doesn't instantly eviscerate all the love they feel for their husbands. It might make it harder to tap into and hold onto but that doesn't mean it's gone. Chances are that you still do love your husband but if you do not there is no point in kidding yourself or offering false hope to your husband for a second chance that isn't meant to be.
3. Do you honestly believe that your ex husband will do everything, even if he is not comfortable doing, to make the relationship a success? As his wife, you know him well. Is he the type who is willing to do everything or he is the type that requires a lot of arm bending to persuade? If you think it's better for you to do it alone, then you shouldn't bother giving him another chance.
4. Are you willing to change for the benefit of your relationship? It's not only him that needs to change it also requires you to make changes, for your relationship's sake. Are you willing to do everything to make it happen? To be given a second chance in life comes only the least we expect to. If this happens, both of you must make sure that you make most out of this second chance before risking yourself back into the relationship again.
The answer to this question is entirely up to you. Nobody can dictate you what to do. For a start, it is better that you answer these few questions first before considering to give that ex cheating husband of yours a new room in your life and be hurt again for the second time.
1. Do you still believe that your ex husband loves you? If not, then there is no point in moving on the next level. If you continue, insecurity will eat you up and you will be unable to give your relationship another shot. However, if you do believe that he loves you, then you should know that he will not commit the same mistake again and see you go through the pain of him cheating on you and be devastated if he cheats for the second time.
2) Do you still love your husband? For most women, the act of cheating doesn't instantly eviscerate all the love they feel for their husbands. It might make it harder to tap into and hold onto but that doesn't mean it's gone. Chances are that you still do love your husband but if you do not there is no point in kidding yourself or offering false hope to your husband for a second chance that isn't meant to be.
3. Do you honestly believe that your ex husband will do everything, even if he is not comfortable doing, to make the relationship a success? As his wife, you know him well. Is he the type who is willing to do everything or he is the type that requires a lot of arm bending to persuade? If you think it's better for you to do it alone, then you shouldn't bother giving him another chance.
4. Are you willing to change for the benefit of your relationship? It's not only him that needs to change it also requires you to make changes, for your relationship's sake. Are you willing to do everything to make it happen? To be given a second chance in life comes only the least we expect to. If this happens, both of you must make sure that you make most out of this second chance before risking yourself back into the relationship again.
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Most of the time it is well worth the risk to get your ex husband back - even after cheating. This article, Do Ex Cheating Husbands Deserve A Second Chance In Our Lives? is available for free reprint.
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