Monday, September 6, 2010

How To Get My Ex Back - Finding Out What Made You And Your Ex Grow Apart

By Ben Cawiezell

Now that you and your ex have gone separate ways, you feel that it's just another bad dream that will end the moment you wake up. The thing is, no matter how you pinch yourself, it's still there continuing to give you a hard time coping.

Your ex's 'single status' in Facebook gave you a holler. "What went wrong? Will there be another chance for us together? What will I do get my ex back?" These are just questions you've been dying to know the answers. It may hurt you but the real thing here is that your relationship is just but a piece of history already.

Try to focus on the first question: what went wrong? Analyze the things that happened before the breakup. Have you done anything against your ex's philosophies? Or is it the other way around? It is necessary to be alone and away from your ex in order to come up with a sane realization. Sometimes when you are with someone you love and things turned sour between the two of you, you can't help but become bitter and irrational towards the situation.

It is important that you be alone and away from your ex for you to come up with a rational conclusion. It is not unlikely that when you are with someone you love and that things may turn sour at times, you may become bitter and irrational about the situation.

Look at how the relationship started and think of your reasons for falling in love with each other. What was it in you that made your ex fall head over heels? Were you a pair or romance idealist when you started dating?

Or you can be this kind. You used to be full of surprises, giving mushy notes, simple yet sentimental gifts and unexpected dates. But the all stopped after your first year anniversary or worse on your 6th month only. So what happened then? You just ceased being that person your ex used to loved and cherished.

Perhaps you've changed because you saw changes in your ex, too. Or maybe it happened the other way around - he or she stopped being a thoughtful partner because you've also become the least humorous boyfriend/girlfriend in the history of mankind.

Could it be that you have changed in some ways that's the reason why you were able to notice changes in your ex as well. Perhaps it happened the other way around - your ex ceased to be the caring partner as went from being the most exciting to the least humorous relationship partner in the whole wide world.

It is no longer important who started the changes for that is no longer the issue. The purpose of the recollection is to keep you in place and get you in a proper perspective to help you out in reacting to the situation. In closing your mind to some reasons of your separation with your ex, you will never realize your mistakes and may even put all the blame to your ex. Or it could be that you'll take all the blame yourself for the death of your relationship.

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