Sunday, September 19, 2010

Healing A Heart Wounded By Cheating

By Ben Cawiezell

Knowing how to heal a heart wounded by cheating brings peace of mind to anyone experiencing a troubled one. For some, it's considered to be the most difficult task to perform. It is painful to know that the relationship you've cared for for years will come to an end not because of death but because of disloyalty.

We all came from a different family or even different race. We don't know each others backgrounds in life and childhood likes, how we experienced love from the day we were born until we reached this age. We will all know some of it when we start dating the person we like.

Each person in a troubled relationship has their own perspective and expectations. These are filtered through their beliefs, ideologies, and their good and bad past life experiences.

It is helpful to view the conflicts through other's eyes by taking their perspectives and expectations into account. Imagine being in their shoes - how would they view this situation. Look at both sides of the conflict as a way to see the bigger picture and create a healthy relationship.

Just like a glass filled with water. Once it's broken, the water spilled out and you can't bring back the same old water inside the glass. Yes, you can fasten the broken glass by having it glued, but the glass will looks different. It may not the same old glass. There will be some marks, tattooed forever.

Addiction in various kinds can sometimes bring a tragic effect in a relationship. Addictions like pornography, gambling, drugs, alcohol or even money. These could bring an unkind effect in a relationship by capturing sexual fantasy that leads to cheating.

Parents of both sides can be a barrier or a blessing in a marriage. There are parents who get involved in their sons and daughters married life as often they have wisdom to offer. However, boundaries need to be set, so that the couple can forge the relationship in an intimate basis.

Meet new friends and enjoy their company. In the number of months that you were with your partner, I think you miss a lot of things with your older friends- go out with them and share something like what just happened to you. They might give you advises to help you overcome the situation.

It's not difficult to fix a broken relationship as long as each will participate to let the fire burning again. Start by communicating. Some couples fight by shouting and screaming and end up in not talking at all. Try to cool down and let your partner know what you want. Communication of feelings is very necessary to maintain the balance of emotions.

We are all human beings and we're prone to mistakes but what's important is that we learned from those mistakes. Mistakes that can make us strong to stand the test of time.

Steeping away from mental powers and communicating from the heart ensures that words are shared from a place of love, forgiveness, and compassion. Explore ways to communicate effectively so broken relationships/marriages can be healed and sealed for a lifetime.

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