Thursday, September 23, 2010

How To Keep Your Kids Safe While Dealing With Custody Issues

By Lewis Currin

There are lots of reasons that you might need child custody help. Most situations are rather benign and an amicable arrangement is made with little outside help. Of course, if the situation is direr, you may need some extra advice or help from a professional. Having knowledge about your options will help you decide how to proceed better, whatever situation you are in. If you need help figuring out how to approach your child custody situation, here are some things that you need to keep in mind.

It is important for you to remember that regardless what is going on, your child has specific needs that you need to meet. Don't put them on hold because you are doing battle with their custody arrangement. Whatever happens, don't put them in the middle. Please don't use them as pawns in the divorce, or try to turn them against the other parent. Of course, we assume that you wouldn't do this, but it is always a good reminder. Make sure that you make time for them every day and that you give them the support they need. They are having a hard time with this too.

You might not want to hear this, especially since you are seeking child custody help, but sometimes neither parent is granted custody of the child or children in question. In dire situations, the judge will award custody to a family member, or even appoint a legal guardian from child services. This can happen, even though it isn't ideal for anyone, especially if neither parent can prove they can be the providers for the household. It is best to prepare yourself emotionally for this, even more so if your lawyer advises that this is an option.

There are a lot of pros and cons to taking custody cases to court. Get familiar with this if you want child custody help. The pros are that the children are placed with the most qualified parent or guardian and that they are safe and, hopefully, happy. The con is that your child will be dragged through what could be an ugly battle and your personal behavior during that battle will play a large role in its outcome. Talk to your lawyer about the benefits and drawbacks of pursuing a child custody case.

Without even getting the law involved, there are many reasons to pursue child custody. Knowledge, in this situation is power, as much as it is in other situations. Especially when it comes to learning your local laws. The better able you are to prove your case, the more likely it is that you will win. Don't forget though to keep your child's best interest first. Regardless of the outcome, your focus should be on making sure your children are cared for, healthy and happy.

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